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Amarillo: Four Tips to Become the Great Leader You were Born to Be

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The following is the life and leadership story of ilumn8.life founder Anne Peterson. Be sure to click the links in the article to schedule a call with Anne to explore the opportunity of joining her and her co-creative partner in the Imagining in Action Summit coming this August in Cancun, Mexico.  

Amarillo: Four Tips to Become the Great Leader You were Born to Be

I started my “adult” life at 15 years old with a new baby and myself to support. 

When people hear this they are shocked. I am now 53, my son is 35, and I live a life that defies all expectations. My mom “kicked” me out of our home with my 4-month-old son when I had just turned 16. I found out much later that she thought if she made me experience the difficulties of caring for another human, I would make, what she felt, the better choice for me at that time: to give him up for adoption. Her intentions were loving, her methods were not.

What happened instead was, I dropped out of my special school for school aged parents (9th grade) and moved in with a schoolmate and her daughter. I got a full time job at McDonalds while she stayed home and cared for our children. We both had food stamps and some government assistance that helped a bit, but it was really our partnership that made it all work. I quickly became McDonald’s youngest management trainee (by 17). To this day, McDonald’s is one of my favorite jobs!

I defied the odds, not because I had any special skills, but because I refused to put truth behind what people said was my predictable future. You could say I was being more right about making them wrong, than they were being right about my fate. I was told many times I would end up with more children before I turned 18 and on welfare for life. Only people that have never had to live on welfare or food stamps think this is a life choice–or that it is even possible to be on welfare forever.

Instead, I became an advocate for the Washington State Collation for School Aged Parents (WACSAP). I testified before state government officials on issues related to teen pregnancy, I spoke to high school students about what it was really like to “not make a choice about birth control” and I was featured with my son on an after school special about teenage parenting. All of this got people talking about how I was defying the odds. So I chose to live into that future, instead.

Each job I got was one step better than the last. From fast food to bank teller to bill collector (where I wore my first pantsuit!); I worked two jobs numerous times and relied on family and friends to help care for my son. I used under-the-table work (house painting) or tipped work (delivering pizzas) to keep it all going. The hardest part of living independently was not paying rent or food, it was paying childcare. P.S. Want to solve the “welfare problem”? Pay for childcare centers 😉

I used every resource I had, every gift that came my way, many of which I didn’t even know I had at the time. I said yes to any opportunity that looked like it would get me to the next level up the ladder of “acceptability” and “success”. I was young, pretty, white, ambitious and out to prove the critics wrong. I know I had opportunities that others in my situation would not have had, this is why today I stand for and fight for all peoples’ rights (not just ones who look like me).

One of the biggest predictions I defied was, I did not get married or hook up with a man before my 20th birthday and I did not have more children. I made it until I was 21 before I hitched my wagon to a man I thought could take care of me and my son and who would provide the stability and acceptability I craved. He did not accomplish any of that, but he did give me my beautiful daughter, for that I am eternally grateful. I was 23.

Anne Ireton Peterson Leadership Story

While the seeds of a leader were evident (I can see that now), a huge turning point in my life was when I did a powerful self development program. At my best friend’s urging, I did this 3 day program in a desperate attempt to save my failing marriage. I was 26 and in that program, I learned I didn’t need to conquer the circumstances of life, I could create them! I promptly told my husband he could leave, and set out on the next 20 year adventure that molded and shaped me into the leader I am today.

At one point in my life, a friend of a friend offered to teach me sales and give me a job in one of her carpet stores. She said, “If I teach you sales, you will always have a job.” She was right. By the time I did the self development program, I had a good job managing one of her stores and had a great support circle around me. This enabled me to participate in the facilitator training I needed to lead transformative programs. My initial aim was to become a more effective sales person, little did I know where it would actually lead me.

Eventually, I went on to produce, manage and lead transformative programs to more than 4,000 people all over the United States. I got to travel, meet extraordinary people, get trained in skills I didn’t even know I wanted. I met and married a great man who does provide all the right things that I didn’t necessarily “need” anymore. It was in this career that I created the possibility of “transforming the world poolside with a martini.” This is the foundation for my companies, Innovative Event Management (IEM) and iLumn8.Life

In 2005, a few short years after my husband and I moved our family to Texas to follow a business opportunity, we found ourselves in downtown Dallas, managing a 230 room Quality Inn when Hurricane Katerina hit. I spent several weeks running a de facto relief center. I came to understand, all of my training (both in life and leading programs) had been to prepare me to be who I needed to be at that moment. At this point I understood, I didn’t need to know my future–what I was working towards–I just needed to follow what life brings and the future would unfold perfectly and reveal my purpose again and again.

I spent a few more years leading the transformative courses before I retired from that career to discover what was next. In my “retirement” from being the leader in front of the room, I become the source in the back. I was asked to support the launching of a new charity committed to reinventing leadership education. The plan was to develop a leadership course that could be delivered using a new model of learning. Learning that leaves the student not just knowing more, but being more.

This course is now available to any educator that wishes to teach a new model of leadership to their students while developing themselves to deliver learning in a whole new way.

So here we are, my son has a family of his own and is a fine man, I raised us well! My daughter is an amazing, strong and resilient woman who is in the process of finding her own leadership and contribution.

So what is MY FORMULA for being a leader in life …. 

  • Make friends with the people you aspire to be. 
  • Say YES to whatever BOLD vision or BIG idea that comes your way (even when you think you are not qualified).  
  • Put your future in the hands of others who motivate you, listen and follow what calls to you, not what you think you should do! 
  • Be grateful everyday for what you have been given.

That’s how you become a leader, something you have always been.

I hope my story has inspired you in some way to share your own. I promise, your story is a demonstration of leadership in action, it just takes the courage to tell it!


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